No One Teaches You How to Build a Bridge
"No one teaches you how to build a bridge in life."
One of the women in my Unstuck & Unstoppable group coaching program said this in our very first session to the group. I saw nods around the room because we all knew what she meant. In fact, it was really the core reason why each woman joined the program in the first place - to get help in figuring out how to build that bridge to the life they wanted to live.
You get so far in life by building the resume, earning the degrees, taking the promotions, checking the boxes to build this life that society tells you, you should have. And then one day you look up and realize the life you built, the one you thought would make you happy, doesn't quite fit anymore.
No one prepared you for that part. And no one prepared you for how to navigate out of it.
There's no roadmap for what comes after you've done everything right and you’re still fighting to be where you hoped you would by 30, 40, 50 years old. There’s no class on how to figure out what you actually want when you've spent years being very good at what other people needed from you. No guide for how to build the next chapter when you're not even sure what that chapter is supposed to look like.
The thing you know, can feel like security when in reality it’s suffocating you. Another client talked about hating her boss for years, dreaming of something else but not actually making the move.
So, most women do what makes sense. They stay. They manage. They tell themselves it's not that bad. They apply to jobs that look good on paper and wonder why nothing feels like the right fit. They keep moving, but not forward. Not really.
Last week, the Unstuck & Unstoppable Cohort kicked off with an incredible group of women. This is the third round of this program and it just gets better and better each time.
In our first session, we used bridges as a way to talk about where each person was right now in their life. And a theme kept coming up.
Some were hanging on by a thread.
Some were sitting on one side of the bridge, not sure how to cross.
Some were looking out at what they wanted, still trying to figure out how to build toward it.
They were in different places, but the same feeling kept coming up. I built this life and now I don't know what to do with it, where to go, or how to get to what I want next. And it feels scary to build this bridge alone.
What if I mess it up?
What if don’t do it correctly?
What if the bridge leads me to a place I don’t want to go?
All of these questions are valid, but they also keep us stuck and feeling small. We spend so much time putting attention to the things that aren’t lighting us up, instead of putting that mental energy into what could be.
What I know after working with women in career transition is that the problem is almost never a lack of options. It's a lack of clarity. And under the lack of clarity is something else: a woman who stopped asking herself what she actually wants because the question felt too big, too selfish, or too hard to answer without knowing what comes next.
So that’s where we start in my programs. Not with the resume. Not with the job board. With permission for what we really want.
Permission to name what's not working.
Permission to want more without having to justify it.
Permission to ask the question fully, maybe for the first time in years: what do I actually want next, especially in the context of my life right now?
No one gave you the tools, but I will in Unstuck & Unstoppable
That clarity work is not soft. It is the hardest and most important work there is. Because if you don't get clear on where you are and where you want to go, you will keep taking steps that don't lead anywhere that feels like yours.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
The women in Unstuck & Unstoppable aren't just learning from me. They're learning from each other. They're seeing themselves reflected in someone else's story and realizing, oh, it's not just me. They're reclaiming what makes them unique, what they value, and what they want to build next.
That's what a bridge-building space looks like. It’s so much easier to have help and tools to build to what you want faster.
If your job isn't bad enough to leave but it's not good enough to stay in for the next 5 to 10 years, you're not stuck because something is wrong with you. You're stuck because no one handed you the tools to build what comes next.
That's exactly what we do here and I hope you’ll join us.
The third Unstuck & Unstoppable Cohort is underway. Enrollment for September 2026 is open now. Join the waitlist!