I Wore Glasses for 29 Years. Here’s What getting LASIK Taught Me About Getting Unstuck.

I've worn glasses since I was 10 years old.

I am very familiar with the eye doctor and picking out frames for my face. For 28 years I adjusted them on my face in the middle of a workout. I stumbled around in the dark. I paid hundreds of dollars a year for updated prescriptions. I got water splashed on lenses at the pool. I couldn’t go snorkeling on one summer vacation because there weren’t goggles big enough to cover my glasses. Without them, I couldn’t see anything. So instead, I sat on the boat. I broke pairs. I lost pairs. I had every reason in the world to get LASIK, and I kept finding every reason not to.

The cost. The recovery time after the surgery. The fear of putting an actual laser in my eye. The "it's not the right time." The "I'll look into it next year." These were all reasons I thought I shouldn’t do it.

And then I did it.

Now I'm at the gym and I reach up to adjust my glasses and there's nothing there. I wake up in the middle of the night and I can see the clock. I can see the mountains in the distance with a clarity I forgot was possible. And all I keep thinking is: why did I wait so long?

If you've spent years in a job that isn't working, I need to tell you something.

You might be doing the same thing I did.

The Cost of Staying in the Pain

Here is what I kept doing for 29 years: choosing the familiar discomfort over the unfamiliar solution.

I knew the glasses were a problem. I dealt with the slipping and the fogging and the yearly expense. And I told myself that was just how life worked. That the solution (LASIK) was too expensive, too scary, too permanent.

I hear this exact same story from women I work with.

They have been in a job that drains them for three, five, ten years. They dread Sunday nights. They have lost themselves somewhere in the day-to-day. They know something needs to change, but they keep choosing the familiar discomfort: staying put, scrolling job boards at midnight, telling themselves they'll figure it out.

Your job isn't bad enough to leave, but it's not good enough to stay in for the next 5-10 years, either.

And so you wait for clarity that never comes on its own because you’re stuck in your own head over thinking. You’re waiting for the right moment that never arrives. Or, you’re waiting for someone to give you permission to want more or do something different.

The Real Cost of Waiting

I used to think LASIK was expensive. And it is, upfront.

But when I added up 28 years of glasses, contacts, exams, replacements? I had already spent more than LASIK cost. I just paid it in smaller, invisible increments.

Staying stuck has the same math.

Every year you stay in a role that doesn't fit costs you something. Energy. Confidence. Time. Relationships. Earning Potential.

You might slowly be losing connection with yourself.
You’re dreading Sundays and when Monday rolls around you’re just trying to think about how you can get through to Friday as soon as possible.
And each week as you get back on the hamster wheel of life, you might keep telling yourself that same stuck story of, ‘this is just how it is.’ I’ll never find something as stable as what I have. But you know that what you have now is not enough because it’s slowly drianing you.

The investment in working with a coach isn't the expensive decision. Waiting another year is.

What New Eyes Actually Feel Like

Since LASIK, I've been noticing things I couldn't see clearly before.

I keep asking myself why I spent so long accepting a blurry view as just the way things are.

Since LASIK, I've been noticing things I couldn't see clearly before. Yes, I can see the mountains more clearly and even read the tiny font on street signs, but also, I’m seeing more clearly metaphorically too.

I can see my life from a different vantage point. And I keep asking myself why I spent so long accepting a blurry view as just the way things are.

This is what women tell me after we do the real work together in coaching. Not that I fixed their career or handed them a plan. But that they can finally see clearly. That they remember who they are outside their job title. That they know, maybe for the first time in years, what they actually want.

And when women do the deeper work to figure out what truly lights them up, everything else comes into focus.

If you are reading this and something landed for you, I want you to know: the clarity you are looking for isn't going to arrive on its own.

My 4-week career clarity program, Unstuck and Unstoppable, is designed for women exactly where you are. Women who are high-achieving, capable, and stuck. Women who know something needs to change but can't quite see what that is yet and they need help with an exit plan from they are and an on-ramp to where they want to be.

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